Why feeling "in love" isn't a godly boundary

Sexually whole single adults enjoy the freedom of making wise choices rather than ignoring or testing God’s law of sowing and reaping. This requires setting up healthy boundaries in a relationship. To say you will never engage in deeper erotic expression unless you’re “in love” with someone (whatever that means!) is not setting a real limit. Erotic sexual feelings and genuine love for another are easy to confuse when you’re in a long-term relationship, alone in his apartment at 2:00 a.m., or just plain lonely.

(from Chapter Thirteen, Viruses that Infect Healthy Sexual Relationships, p. 202)