The "ache" for intimacy

So what should you do with this ache as a single adult? Take a lot of cold showers, settle for false intimacy, or masturbate a lot? Not hardly. We must discover the purpose for the ache and understand why such deep longing exists—and what to do when it comes to the surface—if we are ever to be all God created us to be as soul virgins.

(from Chapter Nine, So… What Do I Do with My Sexual Surging?, p. 136)